Do any of you find this situation familiar? Starting a relationship or moving in with a single parent comes with a responsibility, and that responsibility is your partner’s child. When you are in a relationship with a single parent, it is essential that you know and understand that the kid sees you as a new parent. The kid is as scared of you as you are of him. It is quite possible that you may be pictured as an enemy who is trying to replace a parent. What to do now? You’re in for a task that you’ve never done before; being friends with a child and make him/her understand that you are not replacing his mother or father. The kid might be a little unfriendly in the beginning but it is important to understand that he/she was also a part of the separation just as the mother and father were. This confusion can arouse a lot of issues between you and the child, but before the situation gets out of your hand, some advice on the matter will help.
It is pretty important to be empathic towards the
Once a child enters his preteen or teen years, parents take a backseat and friends are the people he turns to for advice and support, and also to confide in. They become the most important people in his life, and you are left thinking wistfully of the past, when you were his friend. You are no longer in on his secrets, and do not have any idea what problems he is going through. In such a case, how to know whether your child has a drug abuse problem, and more importantly, how to confront him about it? Specially, now that he considers you no longer “in tune” with his frequency and generation? This article will answer both of your questions.
Knowing Your Child Is Abusing Drugs
Although the communication between children and parents takes a back seat when children enter their teens, there are many teens who still consider their parents to be their friends, and tell them their problems and worries. In case your child and you are no longer close, and you think that the bond is getting frailer every passing day,
There’s no doubt that being a parent to a new baby has its ups and downs, and if you’re a single parent it can sometimes feel like the downs are winning.
When parenting becomes a struggle, it’s even more important to make sure you spend quality time with your little one – one-on-one time is a unique gift for babies that only you as a parent can give, so here are some ideas for ways to enjoy spending time together:
- Eat well – easy to forget with so much to do, but making sure you eat a good balanced diet is crucial for keeping you in the best possible shape for looking after your little one. Try to make meal times a special occasion, where you and your baby eat together, and they can learn about the importance of healthy eating.
- Meet up with friends – quality time doesn’t have to mean you’re on your own with your baby all day every day. Socialising with friends is a really important way to maintain your sanity, and
Raising kids to be good citizens is not as it seems; moreover kids these days are stubborn than ever and are excessively pampered by parents. How often you as a parent have come across situation where your kid refused to go to a nearby shop for buying himself a pencil or a thing he needed? Or on how many occasions have you finished your ward’s homework to save him the bashing from the teacher? His room will always be messy with things scattered here and there, all over. There are many such situations you may have to deal with daily. It takes a great degree of patience on the part of parents to teach good habits and accountability to their kids. In this article we have discussed ways through which you can help your child become more responsible for himself, his work and his life.
Making Your Child More Responsible
What does responsibility mean? Being responsible means being accountable and serious towards the priorities in our life. It also means respecting our own individuality along with respecting others. It means standing up on our own without taking the help of others. Responsibility as such has a broad meaning and it
The stress you consistently feel comes from the frantic pace of modern living. Your schedule is filled up with lots of deadlines, you juggle too many tasks simultaneously, caring for children and parents, or you are a single parent. Your body wasn’t designed for ongoing high stimulation, thus your stress levels are consistently high. You deal daily with the effects of the economy, the uncertainty of your job, the challenges of family life, maybe you got divorced, or you may even have an ongoing combination of these. If any of these resonate with you, it is imperative that you take steps NOW to release stress from your body, before it begins to break down!
Many of us go through our days running on empty. The things that would bring you vitality and vibrancy are missing in your life, and many of us only realize this when some sort of dreadful, mysterious symptoms set in, starting with a constant feeling of fatigue and tiredness.
Before this happens, decide to do something every day that breaks your routine and makes you smile.
The 10 best ways to release stress effectively integrate the
Parents have a major role to play in their child’s success in school. Although, the child spends a long time learning in school than at home, there is a lot that parents can do at home to guide their child. Parents involvement can make a lot of difference to improve the child’s academic progress. They know their child better than anyone else and hence they are very well aware about his/her strengths and weaknesses. This can prompt them to lead the child towards the right path. As a child has a close relationship with parents and thinks that they are his/her reliable sources, the child believes that whatever parents do for them is good and responds to all their efforts in a positive way.
Beneficial Ways to Help Your Child Succeed in School
Childhood is the foundation of your child’s future and that is the correct age to prepare the child for better schooling ahead. Look below for some ways to help your little child attain success in school.
Encourage Positive Approach Towards School
It is a part of human tendency that most of the children do not like school and the atmosphere there. This might affect his/her learning severely. If
Creation of stepfamilies might sound very common to most parents. But it has a deep-rooted impact on minds of all those children who get dragged into the whole system. A common effect of trying to bring two families together is stepsibling rivalry. Rewinding back to the 1970s hit sitcom ‘The Brady Bunch’, it famously depicted the union of two families with six stepsiblings. The show depicted routine fights and scenes of rivalry and misunderstandings coming up between the siblings and the screen parents had to be on their toes to show their very best parenting skills. Back in your home, you may realize that handling stepsibling rivalry can be very painful and testing. Here is a brief insight into stepsibling rivalry and ways to handle the situation.
Stepsibling Rivalry and Child Psychology
With one out of every two marriages turning into a divorce, remarriages are not uncommon. If you and your new partner happen to have children from your previous marriages, then it is quite common for the two families to unite and stay together as one whole family. Due to some prominent effects of child psychology, you are quite likely to face some rough phases of stepsibling rivalry which
As most single parent families know, budgeting can be difficult and there are a number of hidden costs that can sabotage your financial success. While parenting as a single person can present a challenge and may be difficult, it is certainly not impossible. The key to successful financial parenting when single is most likely going to rely heavily on being able to properly budget finances. The following are are some budgeting tips for single parents:
1) Plan for some time off.
Try to factor in some time away from your children. This means that, in addition to setting aside money for a movie, date, class or hobby, you need to budget for a babysitter. Even if you find a family member willing to take care of your children, consider getting them a small gift or token to let them know you appreciate their efforts.
2) Don’t include imaginary money.
Don’t make a budget that includes imaginary, potential money, or money that you are not certain you will be receiving. Don’t make a budget that estimates overtime, unless the overtime is guaranteed. Don’t rely on
Being a parent is hard enough. What should they be eating? Maybe you shouldn’t be feeding them those types of foods… those aren’t organic! What fabric softener should you be using? Are you spending enough time with them? Why does my child keep fighting on the playground? These are questions that you may ask yourself every day, and there are times when you might feel like nothing that you do is good enough.
These points are just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to parenting, and then there is a whole other side to the task; one that is unfortunately very common- and that is being a single parent. It is never ideal having to face challenges alone, let alone one of them being the insurmountable task of raising another human being! In addition to the financial, physical and emotional loneliness, it can also be hard to maintain a balance between your role as a parent and as someone who has needs of their own.
The fact is that you may have found yourself, through any circumstance, as a single parent. What now? Is it possible to not only
First and foremost, if you are reading this, I am guessing you are about to become a father; hence I must congratulate you! So heartiest congratulations. You are about to embark on a life long journey that is going to be with its challenges and ups and down. But someone very rightly said, “It is great to be a father, but to be an expectant father is divine!” Becoming a parent is as much a transforming experience for a man as it is for a woman. Once a father, always a father. Your world is about to change forever; and even though that may intimidate you, let me assure you it is amazing to become a father. I remember how my brother was full of self-doubt, but how he was the first one to hold his son in his hands, even before my sister-in-law did. Parenting is a full-time and an unpaid job, agreed. But when you see your kids grow up and become successful people in life, believe me – it feels awesome!
Institutes like The National Parenting Center help parents be informed about all sorts of parenting issues and how to deal with them. It would be
Single parents have a tough ‘job’. There are many facets which they need to undertake single-handedly. Hence, it is not surprising that they succumb to a lot of stress. But there are various tips for single parents to be in control of their lives and live well with their children.
Stress will come on when the single parent does not know how to manage it. There are good help books on stress if the single parent has the time to read. Joining a single parent support group is also very essential in coping with stress correctly.
A single parent needs to know how to handle the management of emotional and mental stress; they can be involved in spiritual interactions or meaningful activities such as exercising and hobbies to release stress and tension.
Planning your time
Time is very short to a single parent as there are many things to take care of; work, finances, house chores, children’s health, school, activities and loads of other daily stuff can take up a lot of your time as a single parent. But if you exercise good time management, you
Competitive or comparing parents are those who not only keep boasting and bragging about their child’s achievements, but also look down upon other kids and their parents. They further start commenting on their performances and humiliate them to the maximum. Not only this, they also keep bothering their own kids to maintain consistency in their performance and hold the top position always. They do not understand the meaning and importance of healthy child rearing. Such parents treat child raising as a kind of contest wherein the ways of upbringing are judged by the activities the kids perform and the stage of life at which they are able to perform them. It is not the correct way to judge child rearing, rather, there are different ways parents adopt to raise a child, and all of them are perfect in their own ways. No one method is greater or lesser effective than the other. It’s just the need to understand the difference between bringing out the best in your child and being over-competitive. At times, out of over-expectation, the thin line between the two is crossed and it affects the progress of the child.
Ways to Deal with Over-competitive
Single parent families come about as a result of varied reasons but one of the most common ways is through divorce or temporary separation of parents. In this type of situations it is always the children who are caught up in the middle which leaves them confused as they seek to adjust to the new living arrangement that they have been thrust into.
For most responsible parents this is also a challenging time that must be handled with care so that the children are not emotionally affected and they are able to live their lives in the most normal way possible. It is therefore important that both parents come up with a plan as to how they are going to spend time with the children while trying to reduce conflict to the minimum.
Draw up a pre-determined schedule that will highlight the areas in which you will both handle so as to make the transition for the children as peaceful as possible. Avoid making halfhearted commitments so that the schedule that you agree on can be manageable and also create stability for your children.
Be flexible in the routine that
Narcissism is a growing mental disorder these days. Many partners do not realize that they are getting involved with a narcissist, until reality ensues up, and they decide to separate. Any divorce can be mentally upsetting, plus, dealing a narcissist can be really difficult. Co-parenting after a divorce can be really daunting. Considering the emotional pain that you already have gone through, you already have issues to deal with. However, you do not have the liberty to sit brooding over your past, especially if you have a kid. Moreover, you would want to protect your kid from the same turmoil that you have gone through.
Any typical parent will give unconditional love, but with a narcissist, it is conditional love; only until the children behave as per his/her demands. It is going to be your struggle solely to give a normal childhood to your kid, since the narcissist parent will never overlook his own selfish desires.
Tips for Co-parenting with a Narcissist After Divorce
Keep your conversations limited
Narcissists love drama, and hence, they might engage in hateful talks, or try to demean you either on the phone or in person. The best way is not to respond, and be neutral.
Think from a Different Perspective!
You may feel bad when your teen stops confiding in you. But you need to take it with a pinch of salt, and think of it as a normal part of growing up into an independent adult.
You start talking to your teen, and unknowingly the conversation drifts and ends in a fight, or you bombard him with questions that he just answers in one word. Sounds familiar? It will, if you have a teen in your house who is the master of one-word answers, and has suddenly become moody.
As toddlers, and even as pre-teens, they would talk freely and share every little incident in their lives. You would feel nothing but blessed. Slowly, as they crawl into the teen years, the ‘open book’ that they once were becomes closed with a padlock.
You just cannot get them to open up and talk to you. When you want to start a conversation, they get annoyed. They don’t want to talk to you, and simply become allergic to you. After coming back from school, they simply rush into their room, only to come out for dinner, and again rush through dinner, only to go back
It can be very hard for parents to be away from their children, and even harder for the kids to cope with the lack of interaction and distance.
The situation becomes even tougher when the kids are not old enough to understand why one parent is moving away or not at home often. Toddlers for instance, are much too young to develop strong bonds and thus can grow distant from a parent who isn’t around much.
Unavoidable circumstances, such as having to move to another state or country for work, being in the military, or getting separated or divorced can spell doom for parent-child relationship. Even though you may not be physically present to be with your children, you can still foster a meaningful relationship with them. This Buzzle article discusses some effective ways to make long-distance parenting work.
Stay Connected with Your Kids
Give them a lot of attention
When it comes to kids, you have got to give them a lot of attention so that they do not feel left out or forgotten. You must make it a point to talk to your children as often as possible, so that you feel involved in their lives
At times, dealing with other people’s kids becomes difficult, especially when they are on the verge of misbehavior. For instance, imagine you are at a cloth store and you encounter two kids, a brother and sister, busy fighting with each other over a toy. The girl has snatched the toy from her brother’s hand and is running a marathon around the store. The boy is chasing her and after a while both of them start hitting each other to get back the toy. You are totally astounded with the entire scene and wondering what exactly should be your role in this situation.
Should you intervene and stop the kids? Or should you give them lessons about what is right and what is wrong? Or should you look around for their parents? Or should you just ignore what is happening and do your own work? This, and similar other circumstances are likely to make you feel that you are at a loss when it comes to dealing with kids of neighbors or friends, or any other child, for that matter. Following are a few guidelines as to what is expected out of you, while being around other kids.
Dating as a single parent can be very hard especially if it is your first time. There can be many thoughts going round your head such as feeling like no one will want to date you. This is not true, there is always someone out there who is either in the same situation as you, or is looking for someone like you. Below is some advice on how to go about dating when you are a single parent.
Before you start thinking about meeting someone, make sure you are ready to start dating. You don’t want to regret the decision to start dating half way through the relationship when you realise you are not quite ready. Don’t feel guilty when you start dating, if you are ready then that’s all that matters. When you do finally find someone to start dating, don’t rush into it. You need to make sure that you and your children are ready for you to start dating, so ease it in slowly and take your time.
When you do start dating, always keep your children updated about what you are doing and who with. Your children
A single parent has many issues to deal with alone. He/she has to deal with finances, work, family and house issues. There is hardly any time left for them to consider any personal relationship.
Moreover, it might not be easy to get into any relationship with the demands of the home, children and work.
If the children are young, the single parent can engage a babysitter to enjoy a night out with friends alone. This will be a good break for him/her. A good babysitter will take the parenting responsibilities away, albeit for a short while, from the single parents. It is a breather space for the single parent to be rejuvenated or de-stressed.
Finding an understanding date is another option for single parents who do not mind dating with children on tow. It would make a good ‘family’ outing as well as gauge the relationship between the date and the children. It is necessary to ensure that the date and the children are comfortable with one another so that the single parent is not torn between the two parties.
A date can
An ideal world would comprise parents loving their children equally and the children consequently having a healthy relationship with their siblings. However, in the contemporary world that we are living in, it is not as we would expect it to be. Hence, there is this genuine issue of parental favoritism seen everywhere. However, before addressing this issue of preferential treatment and giving solutions to deal with it, it is crucial to understand the difference between favoritism and differential treatment. Although they seem extremely similar at the surface level, they have various points of differences, and you need the perspective to look at it properly. While preferential treatment or favoritism is giving more attention to one of the children and offering a positive treatment over others in all circumstances, differential treatment is the way of treating a child in a different manner due to his special physical or mental needs.
When we look at parental favoritism, there are several parameters, like the child’s age, birth order, their personality, and even gender that determine the behavior of the parents towards their children. Apart from kids, surprisingly, even adults are – to a certain extent – victims of favoritism played by their